In Episode 35, Dr. B and Heather delve a little deeper into our "crazy-ass" mind, where it tends to go, and the place that is optimal for the NVC process.
According to author, Steve Taylor, humans have three different states of mind: Abstraction, Absorption, and Attention.
Abstraction is the busy mind, consumed with thoughts about past and future. Our minds are so consumed that we are not plugged into the present moment at all. This is, primarily, where most of us live.
Absorption occurs when we are sucked into some kind of activity and it takes over our mind. Playing a sport, reading a book, watching TV...our minds are so absorbed in the task that we are not present with our immediate experience.
Attention is the state of mind that is most akin to the presence that is so important to the NVC process. It's hard to come by - especially when in conflict and, yet, it can be built.
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