It's All About Connection! NVC With Dr. B!
020-Pissing Off Our Listeners!
Episode Summary
In this Episode, a listener asks a question that, we think, many folks are wondering about these days... "How to communicate with people who are expressing 'racist' viewpoints?" We truly hope our answer does not piss people off as much as shed some light on another way of handling these painful situations.
Episode Notes
- How do we tackle racism? That is a big question. That's a very big question, and my answer might not be something that people want to hear, but the first thing that comes to my mind is, can we stop calling it racism . (01.57)
- The main point here is, if you really want to enact change, which is I think what the caller said, she wants to enact change, it starts with yourself, start to pay attention where you are having some evaluative language, also if you're so upset, it's a huge indication that you are needing empathy. (03:54.0)
- There seems to be this idea that if you're not actively disagreeing with someone, then you are allowing... If you're passive, then you are permissive... Yeah, I think there are a lot of people that believe that. And yet, if you are actively saying something back to somebody in a moment like that, you're not getting heard anyways, you're not penetrating in that moment. ((07:04:1)
- Discussion of the paradox of intolerance (10:41.4)
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