It's All About Connection! NVC With Dr. B!
018-Self-Connection
Episode Summary
In this episode, Dr. B. and Heather discuss "self-connection" - what it is, why it's important especially for communication, and how to incorporate it into many aspects of your life.
Episode Notes
Key Points Discussed:
- "...what self-connection does, it gets you connected with what's there, which is what we tend to not want to do very often, pay attention, especially when there's some discomfort, and yet it can be very helpful ."(3:21)
- "So there's a lot of emphasis in NVC around meeting your need, well, this is a different way of meeting your needs, it's not necessarily like getting your needs handled, it's really like greeting your need, like, Oh, hello there."(5:03)
- "There's this idea of with Nonviolent Communication, that all conflict is a tragic expression of an unmet need. Right underneath any conflict that's happening, it's about a need. Well, the more you do self-connection practice, the more you have an idea of what's going on for you internally, the feelings that is coming up is really just a pointer towards, do you have a need that's being met or not being met." (8:10)
- "So you're having these communications and they're not productive, it's because you're not actually talking about the problem that is there, the need that you're wanting. (9:37) Self-connection allows you to get clear on the need and then you can communicate from there and with a level of clarity.
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